Domestic Violence

Truths About Domestic Violence You Would Have Never Known

By: Nicodemus Hilaire

As my regular readers and those who purchase one hour sessions with me I always have a unique outlook and I always get to the point. I especially get to the point when it is hard to talk about.

The fact is anyone can be a victim of domestic violence even men. Women are also capable of violence. It does not matter if you are a man or woman or identify as either. It also does not matter if you are in a heterosexual or homosexual couple.

The fact is we must work together to end the cycle of domestic violence.

The definition of domestic violence is:

“do·mes·tic vi·o·lence
noun: domestic violence
  1. violent or aggressive behavior within the home, typically involving the violent abuse of a spouse or partner.”

Nothing breaks my heart like the thought of those I counsel being in a cycle of domestic abuse. If you live in a western country there are tons of help you can obtain. One of the biggest hurdles to finding help I have found is when people come from a non Western society they cannot simply break away from the family unit. They refuse to leave because they have very good fear of being ostracized from the family unit. Yes you may lose some friends or family from your husbands side but in Western Civilization we protect women from abuse. In the West you have just as many rights as men if not more than men. I want to share that for those that stay in this process for fear of losing their family culture. It simply does not have to be this way. Those who will love you will love you either way.

One thing you must remember is that there is nothing wrong with you. It is not your fault. 

You may schedule a session with me. You can call this 24/7 domestic violence hotline.

Or you can call the police. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO BE A VICTIM.

I have included some statistics and a video for the truth about domestic violence. It offers an alternative science based approach. This is also a different way of looking at things. I want EVERYONE TO UNDERSTAND the facts and what they can do to avoid it. I want people to learn to be responsible for their behavior. First I will show the video and then the “Google Brain Statistics.” If you want to stop something you must understand it.


Just like child abuse was barely believed in the fifties it is coming out that behind what is reported there is a lot more domestic violence than it seems… Also THE DYNAMICS ABOUT THE WHO WHAT WHERE WHY AND WHEN.

I have helped many with this issue and found this video very interesting because the situations described are all crimes and all forms of violence but I do not think we fully understand domestic violence yet at all…

Domestic Violence Statistics Data
Percent of women who have experienced domestic violence 25%
Estimated number of domestic violence incidents per year 960,000
Victims of Domestic Violence Data
Women 85%
Men 15%
Women ages 20-24 are at the greatest risk
On average, 3 females and 1 male are murdered by their partner each day
The health costs of domestic violence yearly $5.8 Billion
Percent of female high school students who reported being physically or sexually abused by a dating partner 20%
Percent of teens who reported threats from their boyfriend or girlfriend to harm them or themselves to avoid a breakup. 14%
Number of children who witness domestic violence annually 6 Million +
Number of women who are stalked by an intimate partner annually 503,485
Percent of domestic crimes reported to police 25%
Percent of high school students that will be involved in an abusive relationship 32 %
Percent of teenage girls who say they know someone their age that has been hit or beaten by a boyfriend 40 %
Percent of all murder victims killed by their boyfriends 7 %
Percent of college females that will experience some form of dating violence 19 %
Percent of date rape victims that are young women from 14 to 17 years of age 38 %
Percent of all sexual assaults attributed to date rape 67 %
Percent young women raped who knew their rapist either as a boyfriend, friend or casual acquaintance 68 %
Percent of the rapes of young women that occurred in their own home or a friends or relative’s home 60 %
Percent of incidents of domestic violence involving non-married persons 40 %
Number of American women assaulted by men each year 2,100,000
Percent of the victims of domestic violence that are women 95 %
Percent of all emergency room calls attributed to domestic violence 3.5 %
Percent of those that abuse their partner that also physically and/or sexually abuse their children 65 %
Number of women that die each day as a result of abuse 4
Number of children that die each day as a result of abuse 3
Percent of all women who sought care in hospital emergency rooms for violence related injuries 37 %
Number of women that are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends in this country every day 2
% of teenage girls age 14 to 17 that report knowing someone their age who has been hit or beaten by a boyfriend 40 %
Percent of violent crime experienced by men attributed to violence by an intimate partner 2 %
Family violence costs to the nation in medical expenses, police and court costs, shelters and foster care, sick leave, absenteeism, and non-productivity $7.5 billion annually

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